Are you an empath and you worry that you are never going to be happy or to find success? If you feel that way, chances are that you aren’t the only one. People that are empaths are often highly sensitive and they have to deal with many different mental health issues such as stress, anxiety, depression, addictions and more. This is even more than the average person deals with them.
Empaths often have social anxiety disorders because of the anxiety and they symptoms that they have when they have to deal with people and their energy.
When someone is an empath, chances are that they are very sensitive, and this sensitivity can lead to things such as stress and other behaviors. Being an empath that is happy can lead to different kinds of emotional situations which the empath can relieve by finding ways to hide and numb their feelings. The empath is one of the kindest and most caring people in the world and yet they are also some of the most unhappy and stressed.
Being an empath means that you are always picking up the emotions of other people and even places. When you are extremely sensitive, being happy doesn’t seem possible.
There are ways that you can find happiness and you can feel successful in your life and here are some ways to get there:
Stay Open and Curious
Instead of always trying to hide yourself and your emotions, learn to look at people and don’t be afraid to let them into your life. Learn to talk to others and make eye contact. Strangers are not always there to give you all of their problems.
Since there are so many introverts, some people will have a hard time being sociable in some situations. This can cause you to not be successful and can cause you to be uncomfortable. But, when you stop closing yourself off to people, you will see that you have potential to make new friends, get into new relationships and to have fun.
Curiosity can help you to be open to new people and help you to not feel lonely. Instead of hiding yourself, learn to have conversations with people that you don’t know. If they have to tell you all of their negative problems, then you aren’t losing out but what if they are happy and tell you great things that bring you joy?
Here are some things that you can say to someone new:
- What do you do for fun?
- If you could be any movie character, who would you be and why?
- What kind of research have you read lately?
When you are prepared with questions it can help you to stay calm and to be more outgoing. When someone is going to start dumping their feelings on you, change the subject and ask a question.
Be Responsible for You
If you aren’t a mom or a dad then you are responsible just for yourself. Learn to look at how other people see things and the feelings that they have and see that they are similar to yours. Even if they aren’t, your feelings are not their business.
Anytime that you are trying to help someone to feel better, ask yourself, “what is it that I need?” and allow yourself to put your attention on yourself and do what it takes to make yourself happy.
Getting too involved in what other people are feeling in order to help them can cause you to feel that you are lacking in self-esteem and power. Be responsible for what you are doing and what you are feeling and let other people care about themselves for a change.
Listen to Others
Listening might seem like the wrong thing for an empath to do but when you are ready to hear something, stop tuning things out and pay attention to more than just words. If someone has happy body language, talk to them, and find out what good things are going in their life.
Stop getting stuck in a pattern where you always have to feel on the defense or alerted and stop letting stress rule your life.
Don’t ignore other people because they are sending out negative vibes but distance yourself from people that are toxic in your life and people that are bring down your emotions.
Tune into what someone is saying to you and be present in the moment. Learn to focus on the things you are hearing and do not let their energy overtake you. This can help you to feel healthier and happier and cause you no stress.
Embrace Your Darkness
Everyone has a dark side, and this can be anger, sadness, frustration, or other emotions that you try to keep buried. When you allow yourself a chance to express what you are feeling, even when it is uncomfortable, then you can learn to move forward to your peace and joy.
Embracing your emotions allows you to be who you really are and to make a difference in the lives of others around you.
When you show others who you really are then you are able to help them heal. When someone sees the real you, they can be impacted in a positive way, and this can help them to be stronger in life.
Love is not just a verb, but it is something that you focus on and show with different actions that you take. Instead of doing big things, learn to love yourself in small ways. Here are some ways to show yourself self-love:
- Move around to get your muscles moving.
- Eat foods that are healthy.
- Drink herbal tea.
- Allow yourself to show your dark side.
- Wear things you feel good in.
Allow who you are to shine. Show your worth to others and do this by loving yourself more. A person that is very sensitive will be able to love others once they learn to love themselves and this will stop them from being overwhelmed so easily.
Find What Happy and Successful Means to You
Are you trying to reach a goal that you will never get to? If so, you will never feel that you are successful. Being successful doesn’t just mean that you have money or how many friends you have but it is more about what is inside of you.
This can be hard for empaths to understand because they are always trying to set their own needs and plans aside for everyone else. This means that you have to figure out what it means to you to be happy and successful. Ask yourself these things:
- Am I living the way that I want to live or how others tell me to?
- What am I holding back from?
- Where is my happiness?
- What am I waiting to happen so I can feel successful?
- What is one small thing that I can do now that shows my success?
- What scares me?
- What causes me to feel challenged?
Take Time to Rest
Do you ever take a break? Do you always feel that you have to tell everyone yes and do what everyone wants you to do when all you really need to do is take time to rest? There are things that you can do that are productive, but you can also be productive by taking a rest.
Take a nap when you feel tired. Take a few minutes to have time alone. Rest doesn’t have to be an 8-hour sleep, but it can be something small.
If you feel that you need a break, take a moment, and get alone and set the timer on your phone. When the alarm goes off, go back to what you were doing. In the meantime, take a break, drink some coffee, or go out for fresh air.
The only way to success is to find out who you are and to rest and relax and to be the best that you can be. When you practice being your best you will become more successful.
You might feel good right now and if you have money then chances are that you feel more successful. But money is not something that will give you happiness. You will only find happiness in yourself.
If you want to have the best happiness and success, follow the steps above and learn to love who you are. Learn to accept that you are sensitive but that you are smart, loyal, kind and loving. You are a human being.